Last week I shared a few tips to help you start talking to your kids about money. Many of you have already begun having these important conversations, and I challenge the rest of you to make money conversations or financial literacy a priority for your kids.
I was fortunate. My father taught me how to manage money when I was a teenager. Those “money lessons” inspired me to become a financial advisor and still guide my money decisions today. I know the long-term benefit heart-to-heart money talks can have on a child.
Today I’m going to share another 3 Tips to Guide Practical Money Conversations with Your Children. Through ongoing, casual conversations and demonstrating good financial behavior, I am amazed by how much my girls absorb and learn.
The most important lesson my father taught me was to be emotionally competent when handling my money. How many things have we bought out of fear, frustration, anger, boredom, loneliness and even happiness? I’m all for rewarding yourself when you achieve a major accomplishment, but some people have a tendency to reward themselves right into debt.
You can never stop feeling emotions (nor should you) so how can you stop making emotional money decisions?
Just as my father taught me—your goals and values should drive how you spend your money, not your emotions. A goal gives you something to weigh against an emotional need that may be clouding your judgement. Without goals, you have little reason to say no.
Kids need to be aware how their emotions can drive their spending. To help combat emotional shopping, they should ask themselves—”Will this bring me closer or further away from my goal?”—every time they find something they want, outside of their goals. It may take a few tries before they can successfully differentiate between a want and a need, but it will happen with regular practice.
I frequently model this in front of my girls by selecting something I like when we’re at the store, then choose to honor my goals instead of purchasing the item.
Success Tip: I realize we occasionally stumble onto an amazing deal. When it happens, I remind my girls this is why I always encourage them to keep money in their spend jar at all times, so when they find an amazing bargain or a great opportunity presents itself, they always have the money to say “yes” without derailing their goals.
Kids today may be all OMG and LOL, but IMHO, they also need to familiarize themselves with some common financial terminology and concepts, particularly as they grow older.
My oldest daughter is nine and has already managed her back-to-school shopping budget and her birthday party budget with a little help from Mom. It was an easy way to build her decision-making muscles. She learned how to differentiate between a want and need, prioritize her needs, compromise, and look for great bargains. All skills that will serve her throughout her life.
Success Tip: If you have children 9 or older, I would encourage you to let them handle a small budget and get some hands-on experience. If you are unsure where to start, I developed e-workbooks with five age-appropriate money lessons in them. The downloadable workbooks are available in The Heavy Purse Store.
Kids aren’t born knowing they shouldn’t talk with their mouth full. They learn this is inappropriate because we tell them. Money is no different. We need to set money guidelines with our children.
When my girls were young, I taught them there were three things they could do with the money they earned and received: they could save it, spend it or share it. My goal was to set the expectation that they would give their money a purpose and use that purpose to guide their decisions.
As they grow older, we’re having more heart-to-heart conversations about how money works. Too many kids head off to college with little understanding of money, debt, credit cards and investing and soon find themselves in trouble. This is not the future I want for my girls.
Success Tip: When your children are teenagers and working part-time jobs, it becomes critical that you set expectations with them. Will they have complete control over the money they earn? Or will a portion be “invested” and be put towards a car or college fund? Explain the responsibility of having a checking account and the pain of late fees and overdrafts.
Money mistakes will still occur, but it’s my hope through regular money conversations, mistakes will be rare and my girls will be equipped with the tools and experience to thrive financially.
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